IONA 4

April 2, 2025

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IONA 4

Principal's Message

Prayer

Notices from the Deputy Principal

Catholic Education Week Creative Arts Exhibition

Birdman Rally Recap

Year 10 French Excursion

Bahay Tuluyan Immersion Program

CGSAV Swimming Competition Recap

Donate to the College by recycling your eligible containers

St Columba's College is a Resource Smart School

2025 Top Arts Exhibition Recap

Urban Experience Recap

Academic Excellence Scholarships

Thank you to Bakers Delight Niddrie

Sophia Library Holiday Opening Hours

Year 9 Mock Interviews: Parents, Friends and Alumnae Professionals, we need you!

Talking to your children about Maths

The 7 Habits of Happy Families

Connecting Mothers in Grief

Important Dates

Principal's Message

Vale Frank Rowland

We have taken the opportunity to honour Mr Frank Rowland in various ways this week, since we heard the news of his untimely passing. A clear, consistent and resounding theme in the stories shared is of a teacher, and a man, of immense heart and spirit, who had time for people. He never saw a need and disregarded it. If he noticed something he did his best to try and address it. He lent his skills and talents to various departments across the College, including set-building and design for our Performing Arts Program.

Student recollections have revolved around Mr Rowland’s kindness and generosity towards his students, and their enjoyment in his classes. There are a couple of quotes that sprang to mind that capture perfectly the impact Mr Rowland had on his students.

“Students don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” – John C. Maxwell

“They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.”- Carl W. Buechner.

To his students, Mr Rowland was an exceptional teacher who has left a lasting impression on their minds and hearts.

Football and family were his passions. Not being a football fanatic myself, I did overhear many conversations involving a detailed analysis of the weekend’s games, and wonder how you could get so much out of one game. These conversations were rich, robust, passionate, often funny, and at times tinged with frustration. Mr Rowland had a gift of connecting with people over the seemingly ordinary and everyday events of life. It was our shared humanity that Mr Rowland recognised in everyone, and there were many on staff who counted him as a friend because of what he gave of himself in the relationships he formed. He will be deeply missed as a friend and colleague. Our staff group is in deep mourning over his loss.

There were many proud family moments that Frank shared with me. He delighted in his children and grandchildren, and our heartfelt condolences remain with Frank’s wife Laura, his three daughters, and his grandchildren.

We offer up this prayer of farewell for Frank Rowland.

Into your hands, God of Mercies, we commend our beloved teacher, dear friend and colleague, Frank, in the sure and certain hope that together with all who have died in Christ, he will rise with him on the last day. We give you thanks for the blessings which you have bestowed upon him in life: they are sure signs to us of your goodness and of our union with the saints in Christ.

Grant him eternal rest.

Amen

Keeping our Children Safe in the Online World

There has been a fair amount of commentary in the media, and online, about the new Netflix series, “Adolescence”. If you haven’t watched it, I would highly recommend it. It is eye-opening. I pride myself on keeping up-to-date with what is happening for our young people. I had no idea about the cryptic communication systems being used through apps such as Instagram!

Last year we hosted Justin Coulson for one of our parent education sessions. Justin added his commentary about the series. I have included it here for your reference. While the article does focus on boys, there are messages included for all of us. It is a jarring read. Below is an excerpt from the article highlighting the lessons we can take from this insightful series about our children and the online world.

“Adolescence” offers no simple solutions. It simply holds up a mirror to our collective failure and asks what kind of society permits its children to be corrupted in digital spaces until they either implode or explode.

Katie is dead. Jamie is shattered. And the machinery that created this tragedy continues to operate, indifferent to the human cost.

What can you do?

– Monitor your kids’ online activities

– Talk to them regularly (and listen twice as much)

– Minimise screen time and foster face to face relationships

– Spend more time together as a family 

– Make sure they get enough sleep

– Know where your kids are

– Ensure they have access to great adults who care about them

– Tell them the three most important words they can hear: Not I love you… but the next three: no matter what. They need to know they’re worthy of your love. Always.

We take online safety seriously at the College. We have sophisticated filters in place, and we monitor student access to sites that set off alarm bells. Regular monthly reports go to the Wellbeing Team where issues are flagged so that House Leaders can monitor wellbeing and implement the appropriate supports as necessary. Our curriculum, especially through Pastoral Care and Digital Technologies, encourages students to consider their safety, and that of others, online.

The College filters inappropriate sites before they reach the laptop and guardians can do the same by applying the filtering on their home WiFi router. You may already have some filtering applied based on your internet plan. There are numerous articles and instructions on how to do this by searching the web or via an AI platform (recommended). In your search, include the name of your internet provider and the filtering application you have decided on, use the terms “DNS filter” and “home Wifi Router”. The filtering application will have a default database of sites it will block but you can add or remove sites manually. The filtering needs to be applied on the WiFi router due to restricted access to student laptops as they are managed by the College.

Don’t forget about our Online Safety Hub offered to families via our partnership with ySafe, which you can access from the SEQTA Engage Welcome page. Through the portal you can access information about the latest apps, as well as articles with useful advice for families.

If you are concerned about your child’s technology use, please contact their House Leader.

 

Prayer

Christ Lord, bless us with hearts lifted by hope, resilient and steady, trusting in Your promise even when the path is shadowed.

Let Your rising light guide our steps beyond sorrow, transforming our burdens into seeds of renewal and grace.

As we recall the weight of the cross and the silence of the tomb,

may we stand in the stillness of Good Friday, holding firm to Your promise.

As You rose from the tomb, awaken in us the courage to believe in new beginnings, unseen joys, and the quiet strength that carries us forward.

Let hope be our anchor, our song, our enduring answer to fear and doubt.

As we journey towards Easter’s dawn, wrap our community in the warmth of Your promise.

May we become bearers of Your light, sharing hope that heals, restores, and endures.

Notices from the Deputy Principal

MOTHERS’ DAY BREAKFAST

To our dear mothers and mother figures, we warmly invite you to join us for a special Mother’s Day Breakfast as we celebrate and appreciate the love, care, and wisdom you bring to our community.

2025 Mother’s Day Breakfast Invitation

Come and enjoy a delightful morning with delicious food and great company. We look forward to celebrating with you!

 

PARENT ENGAGEMENT COMMITTEE (PEC)

Every parent in our community is a member of the PEC and we welcome your involvement. If anyone is interested in joining the PEC or learning more about what we do you can join us in person or online – 7.30pm – meet.google.com/fij-hziu-ymk). Here are the PEC meeting dates and events planned for 2024:

 

  • Tuesday 13 May  
  • Tuesday 20 May PEC Father/Male Mentor Evening  
  • Tuesday 10 June
  • Wednesday 18 June Mother/Daughter Movie Night
  • Tuesday 22 July
  • Monday 4 August PEC Rep for 2026 Year 7 Parent Information Night
  • Tuesday 19 August
  • Saturday 30 August Trivia Night (7:00pm – 9:00pm)
  • Tuesday 16 September
  • Tuesday 14 October
  • Tuesday 11 November
  • Friday 14 November Year 7 2026 Parents Welcome

 

Yr 7 Meet & Greet – Friday 21 March

Thank you to the parents who attended this event last Friday! It was a wonderful opportunity to meet and chat with parents about how transition has been for their children but also for them as they navigate this significant change. We encourage parents to participate in our upcoming events. 

 

A huge thank you to Diane Tabbagh for coordinating the event on behalf of PEC and to the team members who came along to support.

If you have any questions or feedback for the PEC, please contact us at parents@columba.vic.edu.au

 

ALUMNAE COMMITTEE

Our Alumnae Committee meet once per term on a Wednesday night between 7:00pm and 8:30pm. They are working hard to build the College’s connections to our former students so that our alumnae are able to remain in touch with each other and with the college, improving engagement with our staff and students, fostering lifelong relationships and a sense of belonging. 

If you are an alumna and would like to become a member of the Alumnae Committee, please contact alumnae@columba.vic.edu.au

 

We are thrilled to welcome new members to our committee: Bronte Dowling, Victoria Rizzardo and Chloe Tyrrell who all graduated in 2019.

The team is busy planning an exciting event to be held on Sunday 20 June – a Mid Year Pop Up Market. Please save the date!

 

 

 

Catholic Education Week Creative Arts Exhibition

Catholic Education Week Creative Arts Exhibition

On Sunday, 23rd March, Sienna C (DLYS1) received a Highly Commended award in the Australian Catholic University Portraiture Prize at the Catholic Education Week Creative Arts Exhibition, held at the Catholic Leadership Centre in East Melbourne.

Alongside other award winners, Sienna was presented with a certificate and an art book to recognise her achievement. She is currently studying Year 12 Art Creative Practice and is planning and preparing her next art project.

Congratulations, Sienna! A special thanks also goes to her dedicated and inspiring art teacher, Ms. Silvia Famularo, for her guidance and support.

 
Top Screen 

On Tuesday, 25th March, the Year 12 Media class attended Top Screen at the Australian Centre for the Moving Image (ACMI). The program showcased thirteen outstanding media works from 2024 VCE Media students, including short films, music videos, animations, and documentaries, highlighting exceptional storytelling and technical skills.

The screening left the class inspired and motivated as they commence planning their own media projects, which will be exhibited early in Term 4.

Birdman Rally Recap

On Sunday the 9th of March, St Columba’s College participated in the annual Birdman rally at the Moomba festival. This competition was an incredible experience that involved a month of planning, designing and raising money for the school charity Caritas Australia. We proudly raised $1,412 to support Caritas Australia who have an inspirational mission in how they work in partnership with the vulnerable communities.

The team led by Mr. Rowland who was head of designing and building consisted of enthusiastic students ranging from Year 9 to 12. Ms. Wallace played a pivotal role and was brave enough to volunteer as our pilot who flew the craft.

The project provided an opportunity to promote girls in STEAM as we brainstormed several ideas about the design in order to increase the craft’s aerodynamics. We repurposed the wings of the existing craft used in the previous Birdman rally by removing parts of the wing to decrease the mass to enable the craft to be lighter thereby improving the craft’s ability to fly further. This process helped in our learning and fostered curiosity about construction and engineering. In addition, the process involved decorating the craft to include the six house colours as well as adding flowers made by each homeroom. 

When the day arrived, we were in for a hot Melbourne summer day. The contestants of each team were raring to go as each team had put in their best effort to raise money for their respective charities, some of which were foundations for cancer research and mental health organisations. There were nerves but mostly excitement as each team was interviewed by different news channels and had the opportunity to meet the Mayor of Melbourne. 

Finally, Ms Wallace and the copilots Elizabeth Page, Sienna S and myself made our way to the stage carrying the craft in front of the huge crowd at Moomba. Ms Wallace ran and jumped resulting in an impressive 6 metre flight! The day was an amazing effort from the whole team and an incredible opportunity to work together to construct the craft and learn from our teachers. Thank you to everyone in our community who helped us to raise money through this experience for Caritas!

Year 10 French Excursion

On the 27th of March, the year 10 French class headed over to The Immigration Museum where they immersed themselves in a virtual tour of The Notre-Dame, followed by a delectable lunch at Roule Galette Creperie. 

The day started at nine o’clock when we headed to Essendon station to begin the day. Once we arrived at the museum we were greeted by staff who told us that we would be given mini Ipads that would take us through the construction of The Notre-Dame and the fire that had struck in April of 2019. The tour started at station 1 around the time 1160 where Bishop Maurice de Sully had first ordered the construction of this new and innovative cathedral. With the help of over 1,000 people, all from different hierarchical levels, the construction began. Masons, metalsmiths, apprentices and other laborers worked on the development of the cathedral until its final completion. Whilst taking us through the journey of its construction, the tour embedded astonishing facts about Notre-Dame. An example was The Coronation of Napoleon, a significant event on December 2, 1804, where it marked the beginning of the First French Empire and established Napoleon’s legitimacy as emperor. 

As we delved into the history of The Notre-Dame, statues like gargoyles and The Virgin Mary filled the room. The walls were covered in stained-glass windows imitating those inside the Notre-Dame, structures that emulated the Notre-Dame and a map of France, clearly pinpointing the location of the cathedral around the river and roads. As the tour concluded, we thanked the staff at the Immigration Museum for their patience in helping us navigate the VR Ipads and made our way to the creperie. 

Roule Galette, is a French creperie situated in the streets of Melbourne. Being awarded the best French dessert in Melbourne, justifies why the crepes were so good. We were a bit anxious when we were told that we would have to order our entire meal in french, however we ended up managing the pronunciation as well as our best french accent. Majority of us ordered the ‘Lady Petrova,’ a crepe filled with strawberries alongside a drizzle of nutella and vanilla ice cream to top it off. All the year 10’s were very satisfied with their crepes and it was an excellent way to finish the excursion. 

Thank you to the staff at The Immigration Museum, Roule Galette (for understanding our French accents) Madame Clark and Madame Maryem for assisting us in strengthening our French history as well as pronunciation.

Bahay Tuluyan Immersion Program

The Bahay Tuluyan Immersion Program is a structured experience offering students in Years 10-12 the opportunity to engage with global issues through faith, service, and action.

Rooted in the values of learning, justice, community, and hope, this program connects students with the UN Sustainable Development Goals (SDGs), allowing them to explore the

realities of poverty and injustice while forming meaningful cross-cultural relationships.

Through fortnightly workshops and an 11-day immersion in the Philippines, students will learn from and work alongside the Bahay Tuluyan community, living in solidarity with those they serve. The program fosters a socially engaged spirituality, encouraging experience,

reflection, and action in response to the Gospel call to promote justice and uphold human dignity.

The dates for the overseas component of the program are 1st Dec to the 11th Dec 2025. A parent information session is scheduled for May 6th, online at 7pm using Google Meets (same platform as our parent-teacher interviews). The partnerships and project work completed in preparation for the trip to the Philippines reinforces the notion that this experience is more of a study tour than a holiday.

If this is something you think your child would be interested in, we strongly encourage you to discuss and attend the upcoming information session. We believe it to be a once in a lifetime opportunity to make a difference in the lives of others and your child, in an affordable way.

Click here to register your position in the upcoming parent information session.

CGSAV Swimming Competition Recap

On Wednesday the 19th of March a group of St Columba’s girls had the opportunity to attend the CGSAV swimming competition at Melbourne Sports and Aquatic Centre. The day was filled with a variety of swimming events ranging from 50 metre Freestyle to 200 metre Medley relay and many more. The junior girls in Year 7 and 8 worked together all day to achieve many incredible times, placing in each heat and were able to bring home first place for the junior division. As for the intermediate division, several girls competed but unfortunately did not receive a place in the top three. However, many girls placed for their own individual races still finding great enjoyment from the competition. Finally for the senior division, we were able to place third, an incredible outcome reflecting the wonderful effort throughout the day. The highlight of the competition for our school was the achievement of two girls who were successful in breaking two separate records for the CGSAV competition. Emily T (Yr 11) broke the 50 metre Backstroke record with a time of 31.56 seconds and Frances B (Yr 11) broke the 50 metre Breaststroke record with a time of 35.05 seconds making it a phenomenal accomplishment for both the girls.

We have been a part of the St Columba’s swim team for all of our high school years, which has truly been a positive experience and it is something that we would strongly encourage each girl to participate in. It is a great event for girls to be involved in sport providing an awesome opportunity to work collaboratively as well as enjoy a day out with friends. 

Finally, thank you to Ms Murton, Ms Robinson, Ms Marusic and Zoe MacLaren who made this amazing event possible. By encouraging the team during training and being the loudest voices at the competition they made it an incredible opportunity and the team is lucky to have them.

 

Donate to the College by recycling your eligible containers

Support the work of our Laudato Si’ Action Group by donating the funds from your eligible containers to “Greening our College” (St Columba’s College) at any of the CDS Vic reverse vending machines in the Western Zone.
You can also scan our collection partner ID:
The closest locations to the College are:
  • Highpoint Shopping Centre (120-200 Rosamond Rd, Maribyrnong VIC 3032)

  • Essendon Fields (2 Short Street, Essendon Fields VIC 3041)

  • Essendon DFO (100 Bulla Rd, Essendon Fields VIC 3041)

  • Westfield Airport West (29/35 Louis St, Airport West VIC 3042)

  • Keilor Park Football Club (251 Stadium Drive, Keilor Park, VIC 3042)

Students can also drop off containers to the labelled wheelie bins during school hours.
 
These funds will go towards installing a green wall and garden outside the new Foxford Innovation Centre. We appreciate the support of our community members in supporting our environmental initiatives.

St Columba's College is a Resource Smart School

Reflecting the College’s commitment to Caring for Creation and aligning everything we do with the Laudato Si Goals, this term we officially registered as a Resource Smart School. ResourceSmart Schools is an award-winning program, led by Sustainability Victoria on behalf of the Victorian Government that assists schools to embed sustainability in everything they do. The ResourceSmart Schools program provides practical support to reduce resource use, make cost savings, integrate sustainability into the curriculum and engage school communities in sustainable change.

 

In March, our area coordinator from Environment Education Victoria visited the College and was amazed with the initiatives we already have in place, including our Precious Plastics Program, Second Chance Paper, CDS collections and productive garden. Over the year, we will be supported to document our progress, set targets and work through the suggested actions to eventually become a five star rated school.

We also currently have a Level 3 Earthcare Accreditation and will apply for a Level 4 Accreditation towards the end of the year, highlighting the College’s commitment to continue progressing towards its sustainability targets that the Laudato Si Action Group have mapped in the College’s Environmental Action Plan.

We look forward to updating the community on our progress throughout the year!

Laudato Si Goals

 

 

 

2025 Top Arts Exhibition Recap

On Tuesday March 18th, our Year 11 and 12 Art Creative Practice students recently visited the Top Arts 2025 exhibition at the National Gallery of Victoria. This highly anticipated exhibition showcases outstanding works from Victoria’s top VCE Art students, spanning a diverse range of mediums, including painting, drawing, sculpture, photography and digital art.
For our students, this experience was both inspiring and insightful –
“This excursion aided us to expand our knowledge in different mediums, from animation, ceramics and even textiles. Not only were the finished pieces inspiring, but the exhibition also displayed the intricacies, themes, and planning that go into making art. With the portfolios and interviews from the Top Arts exhibitors, we were able to gasp the journey of developing a piece of meaningful work. That art isn’t simply something you can create on a whim but oftentimes involves steps that include researching, trailing and most importantly inspiration that we were able to gain through the exhibition”.  – Chelsea D, Year 11
“This was my first time attending this exhibition and I was extremely impressed by the variety of what was on display- from highly intricate sketches to whole wall installations, sculptures to  photography, everything was created to an admirably high standard. In addition to the incredible art on display, we also had the opportunity to access digital scans of the students’ visual diaries, written responses about their artwork and recorded interviews where they further explained their artistic practice. I really loved how these extra things were included in the exhibition because all of the out of hours work, streams of ideas and constant evaluation that arts subjects require often goes unseen when we only see the end product. Watching how other students faced similar challenges to us and being able to observe how they problem solve, evolve their ideas and eventually create a highly refined piece is truly inspiring. As the VCE art students embark on our own creative journeys, we can absolutely take away the dedication, drive and innovation displayed by these students and hopefully aspire to achieve similar success with our own art.” – Lucia R, Year 12
Many students left the exhibition with new ideas to refine their own creative practice, motivated by the originality and technical excellence on display. It also encouraged them to push their creative boundaries as they continue developing and refining their own bodies of work.

Urban Experience Recap

Our Year 9 Urban Experience began with an exciting, Melbourne-style race, where St Columba’s students were grouped with two boys from St Bernard’s and tasked with navigating the city, visiting specific locations, and capturing photos. This activity strengthened our ability to use public transport, read maps, and find the fastest routes. On the second day, the St Columba’s and St Bernard’s students split up for a city pilgrimage, with one group starting at St Patrick’s Cathedral and the other at St Vincent’s Hospital. Later, we met Belinda, a worker from Frontyard, a youth service in Melbourne that provides crisis accommodation, health and legal support, and essential resources for young people aged 14-25 experiencing homelessness. Her insights into the realities of homelessness opened our eyes to the injustices and challenges faced by vulnerable communities. This experience was a powerful reminder of our college values- compassion, hope, justice, love, and trust- not only within our school and immediate surroundings but also in the wider community.

 

 

For the second part of the urban experience, we went out on our own and experienced different places,  cultures, and historical meanings behind buildings and the land. on Wednesday we all met at CTC first thing in the morning after We went out in our groups to our destinations we had sheets we had to fill out and questions that needed to be answered the hottest part of it all was getting to our activities whether or not that meant to take transport like bus or  a tram most of the times we walked. Still, some of the activities were too far away I know that our group got delayed a lot because the transport was very hard to get to. It would get held back but we always found a way to our destination it was fun working through different things with new people learning how to connect with people you’ve never met and getting a better understanding of teamwork overall this experience I write was a 10 out of 10 sorry fun and amazing recommend and especially if you’re a shy person and want to get out of your bubble this is an amazing opportunity for you to do that and that was my open experience.

 

Academic Excellence Scholarships

St Columba’s College is pleased to offer Academic Excellence Scholarships for students entering Year 7 in 2027, as well as Year 9 and Year 11 in 2026. We encourage all eligible students to take advantage of this opportunity. For more information and to register online, please visit the College website.

  • Scholarship testing date:  Saturday 26 July 2025
  • Registration closing date:  Friday 18 July 2025

Please note that the College does not provide practice papers for the assessment, as the testing is administered by an external organisation, Academic Assessment Services.

Thank you to Bakers Delight Niddrie

We would like to extend our heartfelt gratitude to Bakers Delight Niddrie for their generous donation of delicious Hot Cross Buns in support of our Athletics Day for Caritas. Their kindness and generosity have played a vital role in making this event a success, helping us raise much needed funds for Caritas and its important work in supporting vulnerable communities.

Bakers Delight Niddrie’s commitment to giving back reflects the true spirit of community, and we are incredibly grateful for their support. It is through partnerships like these that we can come together to make a meaningful difference.

On behalf of our school community, thank you, Bakers Delight Niddrie, for your generosity and for helping us create a successful and enjoyable event for a great cause!

Sophia Library Holiday Opening Hours

The Sophia Library will be open during the school holidays at the following times:

Monday 7th April – Friday 11th April – 10am – 3pm

Monday 14th April – Wednesday 16th April 10am – 3pm

Year 9 Mock Interviews: Parents, Friends and Alumnae Professionals, we need you!

St Columba’s College is calling on Parents, Friends and Alumnae Professionals to interview and provide feedback to our Year 9 Students as part of our Pathways Program

  • Monday 30th June
  • Tuesday 1st July
  • Wednesday 2nd July

5.30pm to 8.30pm

Location: St. Columba’s College

Both the Interviewer (Parent/Friend/Alumnae) and the Interviewee (Student) will be onsite, face to face.

A current Working with Children Check is compulsory.

If you do not have a Volunteer WWCC, apply for free, via the following link: https://service.vic.gov.au/services/working-with-children

If you are interested in participating in this valuable program, please complete the questionnaire using the following link  by Friday 23rd May indicating your availability: https://forms.gle/LY6UQ6h9Ck3MDYsT6

Should you have any questions about the 2025 Year 9 Mock Interview Program, please do not hesitate to contact Ms. Rosalba D’Astoli, Pathways Leader via the Front Office on 9337 5311  or send an email to dastoliiannuzzir@columba.vic.edu.au

 

Talking to your children about Maths

Do you have a child who struggles with Maths?
The following infographic from ACER has been designed as a part of the Mathematics Anxiety and Engagement Strategy (MAES) framework to support parents and caregivers have supportive and encouraging conversations about Mathematics at home.

The 7 Habits of Happy Families

As I have surveyed and worked with thousands of families over the years, there are a small handful of habits that I see parents practice that make their families happy. And they are astonishingly powerful.

In this article I will share those habits by describing the principal, discussing how it works in practice, and offering a provocation to get you thinking.

1. Assume Positive Intent

Principle: Your children are not actually trying to ruin your life. They’re trying their best with limited skills and resources. Sometimes they can be clumsy. They only have their ‘L’ plates on.

In Practice: When your child does something upsetting, pause before reacting. Ask yourself, “What need is my child trying to meet?” Then, address the need rather than just the behaviour. “I can see you’re frustrated. Let’s figure this out together.”

Provocation: We wouldn’t assume your colleague intentionally sabotaged a project, yet we’re quick to believe our children are orchestrating psychological warfare against us. Your child isn’t a criminal mastermind plotting your demise. They’re just hungry, tired, or struggling to communicate. The fastest way to turn a good kid bad is to treat them like they already are.

2. Laugh Together

Principle: Shared joy creates bonds that withstand life’s challenges.

In Practice: Have family movie nights with comedies. Share funny stories. Play ridiculous games. Create inside jokes. Laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Make silly faces, tell dad jokes, and celebrate the ridiculous moments of family life.

Provocation: Most families spend more time coordinating schedules than creating memories. The average household shares fewer than 20 minutes of laughter per week, yet we wonder why everyone feels disconnected. If your family hasn’t had a proper belly laugh together in the last few days, your family culture is in critical condition.

3. Fix Things Fast

Principle: Conflict is inevitable; prolonged disconnection is optional.

In Practice: Be the first to apologise, especially if you’re the parent. Name what went wrong. Take responsibility for your part. Ask what would help. End with physical connection. A hug, high five, or fist bump resets everyone’s nervous system.

Provocation: Your silent treatment isn’t “teaching them a lesson”. Nor is yelling or threatening. It’s teaching them that love is conditional. Every hour of unresolved tension between you and your child is rewiring their brain to expect conditional acceptance in future relationships. Your pride isn’t worth the therapy bills they’ll have later.

4. Stay Close

Principle: Children of all ages are biologically wired for connection with their parents.

In Practice: Create daily rituals of connection: bedtime stories, morning cuddles, after-school check-ins. Sit on their bed for five minutes at night. Drive them to school when possible. Find small ways to connect throughout the day that show you’re thinking of them.

Provocation: Your child’s push for independence is a façade. Behind it is a child desperately hoping you won’t believe the act. While you’re respecting their “independence” by backing off, they’re interpreting your distance as abandonment. Your children need you more, not less – they just need you differently as they grow. They want your involvement in a supportive, not a controlling way.

5. Listen Fully

Principle: Being heard creates security and builds trust.

In Practice: Put down your phone when your child speaks. Make eye contact. Ask follow-up questions. Reflect back what you hear. Don’t immediately jump to solutions or lectures. Sometimes say, “Tell me more about that.”

Provocation: If your screen time report shows more hours on social media than minutes of eye contact with your children, you’re outsourcing the most important relationship they have right now to someone or something else. Your child will remember exactly zero of your “important” emails or Instagram reels, but they’ll never forget the times you chose your phone over their story.

6. Create Meaningful Traditions

Principle: Family rituals create stability and identity in an unpredictable world.

In Practice: Establish weekly family nights, seasonal celebrations, birthday traditions, or Sunday dinners. They don’t need to be elaborate – consistency matters more than complexity. Even simple traditions like Sunday morning pancakes create anchors of belonging.

Provocation: In a culture where kids construct identity through screens and peers, your family traditions are fighting for your children’s sense of self. Without these shared experiences, your family becomes little more than roommates who occasionally share Wi-Fi. The traditions you neglect creating today are the memories your children won’t have tomorrow.

7. Have the Hard Conversations

Principle: Children need parents who are brave enough to discuss difficult topics.

In Practice: Create an environment where no question is off-limits. Talk about bodies, relationships, disappointments, and fears in age-appropriate ways. Don’t wait for the “perfect moment”. Use everyday opportunities to address important topics briefly and naturally.

Provocation: Your discomfort with difficult conversations doesn’t make them unnecessary. It makes them urgent. The conversations you avoid having with your children will be filled by Google, YouTube, or the kid on the bus with wildly inaccurate information. If you won’t have these conversations, someone else – or something else -will, and you probably won’t like their curriculum.

Connecting Mothers in Grief

Important Dates

Thursday 3 April – Last day of classes for Students, dismissed at 1:30pm

Friday 4 April – Parent Teacher Interviews

Monday 28 April – Term 2 Begins for Students

Monday 28 April – ANZAC Day Ceremony

Tuesday 29 April – House Assemblies