Principal's Message
Connecting with Your Children
Mental health and wellbeing are a high priority at this time, as schools and families deal with the ongoing impact of the pandemic and lockdowns. Relationships are key to supporting our young people to understand how they are feeling and encourage them to seek us out to work with them through uncertain times. Building relationships can happen in many different ways. The article below is a summary of some of the actions you can take as a parent to connect with your child.
Connecting with Your Children
We all worry from time to time that we are not connecting with our children as well as we could. Do I know my kids well? Do they know I love them and care? We all have those doubts from time to time. You are already showing you care by worrying about it, so let’s look at some suggestions for improving connections.
- Talk (and Listen) to Them
This is the most basic way to connect with your children. Tell them about your day and ask them about theirs. Ask them questions. It’s imperative for people to feel like the person they’re talking to cares. Asking questions about your child proves you are listening and want to know more.
- Take an Interest in their Interests
Sometimes talking doesn’t work so you can try to get involved in some way in anything they like to do. Try not to be judgmental; they are more likely to respond if they feel you want to appreciate what they love.
- Invite Them into Your World
If you’re willing to show your children who you are they may open up and do the same. Invite them to one of your favourite shows or sporting events.
- Find a new Hobby
If you find you have no interests in common, you can talk with them about finding something new for the two of you to do together. You could try and find an activity neither of you has tried before and start together.
- Guilt is not a Weapon
Make it clear that you want to spend time with them and get to know them, but don’t try to make your kids feel bad if it doesn’t work out right away.
- There is a Time for Friendship and a Time for Parenting
It’s necessary to find a balance between parenting and friendship. As a parent, you’re there primarily to ensure your child is safe and grows up well.
- Don’t get Discouraged
Being a parent is challenging. It may seem that no matter what you try, you still feel just as distant as when you started. Don’t give up. Your children will appreciate that you are trying – even if they don’t always show it.
Acknowledgment: Parenting Today, Child Development Institute. 2022
Addressing the Rumour Mill
There is a pervasive rumour circulating around the local community at the moment that we are becoming a co-educational school. Prospective parents, as well as current parents, have questioned me about this. While we are in conversation with St Bernard’s about exploring the possibility of shared programs and subjects, for the mutual benefit of both schools, I can categorically state there is no plan for St Columba’s College to become co-educational. Research continues to support the benefits of an all-girls environment for the learning, confidence and wellbeing of female students. Shared programs and partnerships are pursued with many organisations (not just other schools) to enhance the work we do with our students, they are not a replacement for the education that we provide.
College Uniform
I continue to ask for your support as we work to ensure that all students are adhering to the College Uniform and Grooming Requirements. Staff members do their best to follow students up when this becomes an issue. This requires the partnership of the student, their family and staff members to ensure that each student is representing the College as best as they can through how the uniform is worn. I appreciate your support with this matter, and in working with the College when consequences are issued when a student finds it difficult to follow through on fair and well communicated College expectations.